In it, she asks: Is having a long engagement just an indulgence? Could we have done everything in a weekend, or three months?
For my money, the answer is undoubtedly yes. You will get as caught up or not in weddings as you want to be.
There are all sorts of factors that might mean you have a long engagement. We're having one because it means (a.) I can lose weight (I'd been trying for a while so it wasn't a snap decision) (b.) we can save money and (c.) we can get the cheap venue we like. Also, I don't like stress. I had anticipated that it would involve more than it currently seems to, and had wanted to leave enough time.
But really, though we have over a year to go, once we knew what we wanted, most stuff sorted itself out pretty quickly.
I'm lucky that the venue does the catering but really, if I did nothing else for a year bar buy insurance, a dress and some flowers, we'd be fine. Getting obsessed over invitations etc is fun if you like that sort of thing. But you can always phone or send an email. That's not to say I'm not getting involved - I intend to fully enjoy this time.
But if we'd had the money and I'd been happy on the weight front then we'd have done it asap.
If you want to let yourself be consumed by it and enjoy it, then you will. If you have a weekend, then you'll book it in a weekend.
I'm a strong believer that with this sort of thing, you only get as stressed out as you want to.