Tuesday, 29 June 2010

the long engagement

So I just read this post from the lovely Cloggins.

In it, she asks: Is having a long engagement just an indulgence? Could we have done everything in a weekend, or three months?

For my money, the answer is undoubtedly yes. You will get as caught up or not in weddings as you want to be.

There are all sorts of factors that might mean you have a long engagement. We're having one because it means (a.) I can lose weight (I'd been trying for a while so it wasn't a snap decision) (b.) we can save money and (c.) we can get the cheap venue we like. Also, I don't like stress. I had anticipated that it would involve more than it currently seems to, and had wanted to leave enough time.

But really, though
we have over a year to go, once we knew what we wanted, most stuff sorted itself out pretty quickly.

I'm lucky that the venue does the catering but really, if I did nothing else for a year bar buy insurance, a dress and some flowers, we'd be fine.
Getting obsessed over invitations etc is fun if you like that sort of thing. But you can always phone or send an email. That's not to say I'm not getting involved - I intend to fully enjoy this time.

But if we'd had the money and I'd been happy on the weight front then we'd have done it asap.

If you want to let yourself be consumed by it and enjoy it, then you will. If you have a weekend, then you'll book it in a weekend.

I'm a strong believer that with this sort of thing, you only get as stressed out as you want to.


  1. I LOVE that I am tagged in the labels in this post, awesome!

    I absolutely agree with everything you've said, by the way. The length of our process has really helped us save money and as such be able to afford what we want, rather than going for things because we can't afford anything else.

    On the other hand, I (like you) got everything sorted pretty quickly and have been doing a bit of thumb twiddling in the interim. I'm so anal at organising things that there was no way it would ever be a case of leaving everything to the last minute and so I've been saying this whole time, "If we had to get married tomorrow we could do it because all the major elements are in place", it's just the artsy fartsy stuff that I've left myself to ponder on.

    If I'm honest, I would have preferred a shorter planning period as there has definitely been a slump in the middle, and it does feel like this has been going on Forever. But if that had have been the case, I wouldn't have started my blog, wouldn't have got in touch with so many lovely and talented people and wouldn't be mentioned in the labels of this post...! It's all swings and roundabouts I guess.


  2. It sure is an indulgence! And for us it is a practical decision.

    I'd rather be able to save than go into debt or not be able to feed our guests.

    Plus, we'll be married for aaaaages, I'd like to enjoy the being engaged part for a while :)

  3. I would have loved to get married sooner, but a longer engagement means that we can save, I can diet and we don't step on the toes of any friends getting married this year.