This is me. I am an idiot.
Since when have I ever cared about 'properly'?
Lovely commenters, twitter people et al: you are right. A friend is the answer. I am half nuts to have even blogged about it.
Sometimes I am so glad that we've got over a year to go. Seriously, some things require a lot of thinking about.
I'm going to keep mulling on this, but I'm sure this is the right decision. Unless they legalise humanist weddings in England and open up a whole other can of worms...