planning a cheap and fun wedding on a farm and resolutely not getting stressed out
Monday, 19 July 2010
So we were trying to have a serious conversation about the act of marriage.
Or rather I was.
J was trying to wash up while I cooked so that we could both sit down and drink beer/gin. I like to do this sometimes – try and have serious chats about marriage at inopportune times – because I’m an idiot, and I worry that we’re not thinking hard enough about it. When of course, that’s not true at all.
This particular conversation centred around the fact that marriage isn’t passive: J had said something about getting married just confirming our relationship and I disagreed. I said that it was something active, something we were making a statement about and a break from our families in order to create something new*. (Note: J didn’t say it wasn’t any of these things. I KNOW he understands this too. But you know, I am an idiot and felt that the point needed reiterating.)
Me:[Very serious] It’s not passive. We’re not just blindly following a path that leads to marriage. We’re actively creating something new. I’m going to be your family, your immediate family. We’re creating a new unit...
Him: [Robotic voice] Unit 5718 has been created. Former units: IRRELEVANT.
And then I started laughing, and told him that if he could just carry on like that, we’d be fine.